another year goes by...now what?

[BrotherLovesDub]

Hey Raj,

Happy Birthday. Today is my Mom's birthday too. She's a bit of a recluse in her old age and I definitely see it taking a toll on her overall happiness and mental welfare. You're a great guy with a lot to give so i'm going to make this short. Get out. Join a community group. Volunteer. You can make a difference helping out and you'll feel better for it. Nothing good will come of you continuing to shy away and turn inward.

Good Luck and Have a great year this year.

[negative1]

Originally Posted by BrotherLovesDub

Hey Raj,

Happy Birthday. Today is my Mom's birthday too. She's a bit of a recluse in her old age and I definitely see it taking a toll on her overall happiness and mental welfare. You're a great guy with a lot to give so i'm going to make this short. Get out. Join a community group. Volunteer. You can make a difference helping out and you'll feel better for it. Nothing good will come of you continuing to shy away and turn inward.

Good Luck and Have a great year this year.

yeah, thanks..
good advice..

i used be really active, invvolved with church groups,
did all that for quite some time..in fact it was really
enjoyable, and i met people and had a really good social life..

for some reason, i don't know if i ever really 'fit in', though..
just became more introspective..as time passed..

maybe i've always been anti-social, and was just
forcing myself to conform?

i always had projects and things in the past to keep me
busy.. but i think my lack of fulfillment with jobs/plans/
relationships always made me rethink what i wanted..

i was always a completist, and semi-perfectionist (if that's
possible)..and i think the lack of not being able to finish the
major things i wanted to do led to this state.

i guess it's easier to lead a 'virtual' life.. although i don't
do social networks/gaming online/etc etc..so i'm kind of
old fashioned that way... i also find it interesting that people
i know don't talk much anymore.. just text...

i don't want to place all my social activities on one person..
that would be overwhelming...but i am going to make an
effort to get back out into the world again.. i'll deal with
my other dissatisfaction separately..

later
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