[Strangelet]

i think your title says it all. can't tell you how many times i've read the news and heard about a victim of violence and injustice and wishing to god I could go back in time to have been there to stop it. doesn't mean I've ever been able to. And for someone like that, how far would you have to turn back the clock? Before her husband starts beating her or her father sexually abuses her or any other trauma that took part in her decision? You can't expect to take the world on your shoulders because other people miserably fail the task of acheiving bare minimum decency, including the victim towards herself.

best thing you can do is, yes have a few deserved drinks, but then feel grateful you're affected and therefore human, and tell the people you care for you care about them, and the people you love you love them, and go and caring and loving the people who are around.

that's about it