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Originally Posted by dubman
yeah it's no ones business really but i'm more just emphasizing there isnt much that only a woman can do paternally except breastfeed, and also the image of a guy doing that is hilarious.
my gf mom is a doctor in nutrition and lactation, so if we're getting into how bad/not bad formula is i'd just be asking her all day for specifics, but they seem to be convinced formula should be for emergencies only...
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there's a spectrum of thought on it, stretching from the la leche league breastmilk nazis to the "whatever works works" camp. most lactation consultants fall somewhere in the middle.
all i know is i'm having two hungry babies and i've only got two tits and two hands and i'm going to do my best. my best may include supplementing with formula. my best may mean i can't even make it 4 months exclusively breastfeeding. my husband is going to dispense as much milk as i do, he's just going to be using a bottle and nipple. we're both going to be nurturers and if he gets home before i do and he picks hungry babies up from daycare before i arrive then he's going to be the primary feeder for the evening. we may be hiring a doula to help, and guess what, hired help can heft a bottle as well as anyone. as you said, mommies aren't the only ones who can care for babies.
all i know is, i'll be damned if i'm going to accept the suggestion that this woman is an inappropriate choice for this job simply because she has a child, or that her job will somehow make her less of a mom. or that her vagina makes her obligated to be home, or that she's a failure of a mother if she chooses to serve the greater good and accept the assistance of her spouse and possibly hired help in raising her kids.
it's absolutely absurd that this even came up, that her womanliness came into it, that her motherhood came into it. and i might as well tack onto this rant that if you have to start your statement with, "i don't want to sound sexist but..." then just stop. because you're about to sound sexist.
she looks like someone promoted the CEO's assistant? she's sacrificing her child's welfare to "play" politics? it's just the most absurd bullshit i've ever read. it's sickening and it's completely baffling that this is coming from the "liberal" camp that loves to criticize the conservatives for their backwards-ass caveman-like views on the "traditional" family structure.
as i said with biden, criticize someone on their record and experience. if you have to fall back on what your gut is telling you (she should be at home raisin' her babies, or 35 years means he's entrenched in washington) then you're simply exposing yourself as a voter who would rather forgo the responsibility of intelligent thought than actually learn and evaluate someone on actual qualifications.